Relationships? Husband/Wife, Boyfriend/Girlfriend, Brother/Sister, co-worker/co-worker. FOCUS: Business. Random thoughts & feelings... I literally just read a tweet that stated it should only be all business or all pleasure....hmmm, interesting. I hate when people get the shit twisted. I've seen it in pretty much every field, FOCUS: Entertainment Industry. Maybe it's just me but why is it that, as a female, one can see an attractive male on the set, or at a networking event, and be able to just simply talk business, without having to discuss that he is appealing when his looks are not relevant to the conversation. Why is it that she wants to discuss business with him, but by the end of the night he ends up asking what she likes to do for fun, which trails off into more "personal" questions? SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GO THERE WITH YOU! Well, atleast I don't. But what if SHE is interested? When is it okay to cross that line & ask those personal questions? Truth of the matter is, we as entertainers are so busy, that the only way to link up with someone is by associating ourselves with the ones we work with. Celebrities date other celebrities all the time. As a result, you may sit there and disagree with all that I just stated. READ BETWEEN THE LINES. The female has to give you a leeway in order for you to take it there. If at no point does a female discuss her personal life, or inquire about yours, she is not interested. If I call you sir or Mr. Please stop calling me honey or baby, or beautiful, it's uncomfortable. Most importantly, if the meeting is designed to discuss a particular project/event, that is what the soul of the discussion should be about. I'm just speaking from my perspective, so if a man has gone through it too, then by any means, tell the aggressive female to "kick rocks." Okay, maybe not that, but something alongs those lines in a more adequate way. But then again, it could get more complicated as there are some persistent individuals. It can get difficult because you try to not to be mean, and one tries to say no in a polite way, and the other person just doesn't know how to take a hint. What happens then? Middle fingers go up!!! Avoid that last advice. Is not what I would do. It all boils down to doing what you need to do, firmly & professionally, so you remain in a positive space. No one has the right to make any woman or man feel uncomfortable. DEUCES!
"So let me ask you a question..."
That's how it all started.
That's the day I found out that he was a pimp.
The story about the pimp continues in some future blogs, for now, let me focus on what the following sentences are really about: Growing up with guys as friends versus girls. Man did I learn the ins and outs when growing up. Proud of having these male friends come to me for advice, grateful for our pep talks, discussions, and arguements. Later on in life to become a great advisor, maybe I should start charging ;)
In later chapters of my life, I've heard men tell me "I don't know why girls think that about me," or "why they insinuate this about me." Really? Another thing I've heard is "I don't know why she thought that...When prior to that I told her this"...Really?
Here are the factors, being nice versus going out of your way to make her feel special, flirting, actions, the things you say, how you say them, and how much time are you giving the individual. There are many more factors, but I'll stick to these for now. I was asked today by a friend if he has led me to think that we are something more than friends, if you see how he treats me then YES, the answer is yes, but I'm smart enough to know better. In reality, I know the answer is no because I have studied his behavior. But he is so good at what he does; making a woman feel special. I mean, if he seriously treats everyone one of his girl friends that he chills with, just like he treats me, then there must be a lot of fooled girls out there. The "pimp" has got game ladies and gentleman. Note to the man out there: Don't make every woman friend, if she really is a friend, feel so special if your intentions are not to go there with her. And there is a difference between respecting your friend vs. making her feel special. That is why there is so much miscommunication in the method of having friends of the oppositte sex. So many people are a part of the film philosophy "2 Can Play That Game." Enough frucken games and just keep it real, is that simple. I'm having a difficult time understanding that being nice is someone's excuse for being misunderstood. I can be nice to people without them getting the conception that I'm interested in more than just friendship. For crying out loud, I don't treat my guy friends the same way I would treat a crush...that's just me though...
If you're a nice guy, remain a nice guy!
You are who you are, but be who you are without misguiding! It can be done!
For example: If you're a guy into sports (most of you are), It's football season, I even know that. I know how important Sundays are to a man. If a man that is really into football, asks to have dinner with me on Sunday, because he knows that I work every day except that day, that is an indication of his interest in me. If I were just your friend we could have dinner after the season is over. You investing your time in me on Sunday Night Football makes me feel special. You are sending the wrong message. Understand?
He doesn't know why all girls think he's a hoe? Hmmmmm
The image you are feeding to the public tells it all buddy. Have you seen your pictures and the shit you post on your facebook account? You constantly downgrade girls, and refer to them as sex objects. You talk about your materialistic possessions more than you talk about feelings, heck you never talk about feelings. But I KNOW YOU! I know that this is the image you portray and not who you really are. But at the end of the day everyone will come to believe the product you sell. And you talk about sex so much, you would have a good amount of money if your career was based on it. The sad part is that some women still end up sleeping with you, knowing that you have slept with so many others. You're a pimp too!
All & all, I'm done blogging for now! Peeeeeace!